Hey Josh, My New Years Res = a BF
Hey Josh,
My New Year’s Resolution is to get a boyfriend. I have a crush on a guy but he lives in Omaha NE. Should I ask him out or forget him.
AlwaysForgiven105
Lincoln, NE
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Yo Always,
Happy 2009!
According the to all knowing, all powerful Google Maps Lincoln is 59 miles away from Omaha.
Thus the question is: Do you want a “long” distance relationship???
PROS:
1) Communication is #1 in a relationship. You two will be forced to talk on the phone a lot. Thus if the communication is weak, you will figure it out quickly.
2) Quality vrs Quantity. Sometimes when you can see someone anytime you want, you take your time with them for granted. In this situation you’ll make the most of your time together.
CONS:
1) The travel. Sure gas isn’t $56/gallon anymore, but you’re looking at two hours round trip for a date. Or meeting half way in scenic Ashland, NE. Nice.
2) The little things. Dropping by for a last minute late night movie. You have a horrible or amazing day at school and wanna debrief with him. No go.
Blah blah blah blah. My advice: Give it a shot. If you don’t you’ll probably wonder if it would have worked out. A two hour drive isn’t much at all to see someone you care about.
In your face, but on your side.
// josh
Anyone out there been in a long distance relationship? How’d it go? Thoughts?
6 Comments
It depends how much you want to be with the person. I was with my boyfriend for about a month before the distance became an issue. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost a year, because I really want to be with him. He lives in Canada and flies down to see me all the time. My ex had a bad personality and I was constantly afraid he would cheat. I trust my current boyfriend and we are rock solid. We are working it out because we want to be together.
When it comes to long distance I can most definitely relate. I met my boyfriend about 4 years ago through myspace. We were both working on promotionals for bands, companies, and shows. He was located in California and I lived in PA. We ended up starting a long distance relationship without EVER meeting in person. We communicated everyday via phone or computer. After almost dating for nearly six months he finally came to visit/meet me for the first time. Every couple of months we would fly to meet each other during our breaks. This is where money became a pain. We have now been together for going on almost 3 years in February. He actually moved out here to attend college to be with me.
I must say though long distance relationships require total commitement, trust, respect, and loyalty. It takes a lot of work on BOTH ends. There are also going to be times when you may miss out on certain opportunities, but if you feel it’ll be worth it, it’ll all work out in the end. :]
I agree with you, Josh. I’ve had a couple long distance relationships…they were both very difficult, but worth it.
I totally agree with Amelia. Total coincidence, but I also went out with someone from California. And I live in PA, too. haha.
I think the most most most important thing needed in a long-term relationship is communication. Seriously. It can make or break your relationship.
long distance relationships are hard because
1) when you need a hug or to just see their face and have them in front of you they cant be and it feels like hes not there for you and it feels like he doesnt love you when he does it just a hard thing to do but some people are okay with not seeing the person they love every week or day…if thats oyu go for it…i know that im not like that i need to be able to see my boyfriend and have hugs from him weekly…but maybe it will work out for you…go for it and if you find it being too hard then just tell him you want to be friends…=]
Hey, check out http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/thingsforldrcouplestodo.html they have a ton of things you can do to make the distance easier if you did end up choosing to be in a long distance relationship