Hey Josh

Mat,
super awesome French, btw, but I prefer German!! (hoot!). Anyway, I am in kinda the same boat. I am still a junior, but I like a boy who is a sophomore in college. He still lives in town and we are friends and everything, but our “groups” of friends aren’t really the same? Does this make since? So, basically, I have some basis to think that he likes me back, but I am still unsure and I want to talk to him, but am scared. I guess the reason for this whole story is to tell you that you’re not alone, and if you work up the courage, I’ll work up the courage. Deal?

Deal. I woulda taken German but my school doesn’t have it. =(

Thanks Josh!

YES! german is the greatest! (:

Personally, I prefer Spanish.

But anyways, definitely ask the girl. There is nothing worse than living your life wondering “what if I had?”
Live. Dream. Love. And don’t worry about the parents. Even if it is awkward, it’s totally worth it.

Hey, Mat. Here’s the deal, if you really like her, ask her. If it doesn’t work out ask her if she can still be friends with you. That’s the least you can do. But before you make any real commitments, make sure you WANT it. Don’t end up like those people who get married on a whim just because they thought they were in love only to find out a month later they’re getting a divorce. It’s a lot like this romance story I just read (and am still reading the sequels), Twilight. She loves a vampire. He loves her back. She will grow old. He won’t. Does that stop them from falling in love and getting involved? No. If you feel up to it, go for it. If not, bide your time. I for one am biding my time until I find the right person. Here are some qualities I like to look for in a girlfriend (and eventually wife): Trustworthiness, Intelligence, Honesty, Responsibility, and they will stay by your side no matter what. The way I look at it, a wife (or husband for you female readers) is your partner. Someone to live your life with you and you to live their life with them. Together you struggle through the swamp that is life. You will help each other and love each other. I believe there is no “the one”. Anyone can work out. If you love each other, then go for it. See if it works out. But I like to think of that movie, License to Wed. The pastor gets them to fight. And if they can pull through, they can get married. He does that to prevent any…. difficulties along the way in the marriage to avoid divorce. So, if you can manage to resolve fights calmly and together, maybe you’re right for each other. Make sure you THINK before you do anything.

Hope I helped,
James Nhan.

For more advice, email me at Hero-Of-Winds@hotmail.com

James is right and wrong at the same time. You should bide you time because if you do get to involved and it doesn’t work out then you will have a miserable time. However there is, in my opinion, a “one”, someone who is perfect for you and you are perfect for her. That’s why you have to take your time and make sure shes the one, maybe you should even tell her about your feelings and then tell her that you want to take it slow. the girl i like i have known=n since 5th grade and i still haven’t asked her out. Part i am a coward, ignore that part, and part i want to make sure that she is “the one”, the one that i want to spend the rest of my life with. So go one. take a chance, but take it slow.

hoped the i was of some level of asistence,
Zane Molgaard

Hey Mat,

How’s it going, dude? I’m working on my end of the deal…you still up to it?

i really like this boy but i am so embarrassed about asking him out!
i think i will get rejected but i can’t get him off my mind!
plesse help!
shall i ask him and face the embarasment or leave it and try my hardest to get over him!?

i met this boy in the summer holidays and we didn’t talk much but i started to like him,
then we started becoming really close to him and i liked him soooo muchhh!
and he’d always like say stuff and iu got my hopess up and then he went and got this girlfriend,
he’s always around me with her and it’s horrible cos i really can’t get over him!
he’s always on my mind and i’ve tried but i can’t get over him!
please help!
xoxo

Alexandra, i am in the same ditch as you and have been for a couple of years. yes years. you just have to tell that person your feelings. If they return them then hopefully they will do the right thing. However it is up to you to decide what the right thing is.

hopefully helping
Zane

Zane Molgaard, you need to ask this girl out. You don’t need to be sure if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. At least not yet. Just because you are interested in dating someone doesn’t mean you’re going to marry them. The whole point of dating someone is to get to know them better to see if you would someday like to marry them. If you don’t hurry up, somebody might get to her before you have the chance.
-Olivia

hey,
i need some advice i like this guy and he tells me he likes me but he wont ask me out i have never had a bf so i am really nervous to ask them out what do i do

lolz. u should just chill out dude. nothin worse than not chillin mannn. dont get worked upp. just ask herrr.

dude, the worst she can say is no. if she’s really your friend than she’ll be your friend no matter what. good luck

Mat I have had many failures in asking girls out and yea it sucks, but only for a little bit, life rolls on. But in my many attempts i have had many say yes also.

dont be scared to ask this girl out, if you like her enough to ask advice about it why not just ask her out. she will probably say ya but there is that but. IF she says no don’t take it to heart just accept it and leave it be. you may think it would be awkward to be around her if she were to say no but she would feel the same way. So don’t let the awkwardness ruin your friendship just talk to her like nothing ever happened and life WILL roll on.

You may have asked her by now and i hope you did and i hope she said yes and her face lit up. and if she did congrats. you did it.

and if it were a no, so what she is only one fish in the sea