Hey Josh

A guy asked me to go do dinner and see a movie with him. He was cute and nice so naturally I said yes. However, while at dinner he made the comment “I won’t ever date a fat girl.” He didn’t quite understand why I wouldn’t eat in front of him after that. So guys, don’t ever talk about any girls weight. EVER!

There is a football player at my school who I was kinda attracted to and he asked me out on a date. Of course I was excited and I wanted to go. I didn’t hear from him again until the day of the date, and it was because I had to call him. He couldn’t go anymore, but he wasn’t planning on telling me.

Advice: Keep communication open and don’t just leave a girl hanging!

This doesn’t really count as a date, but a guy asked me out, then as soon as he said it he looked up and said, “you can say no if you want.” It was pretty much awful. Which you have to understand this guy has kinda stalked me since like 4th grade, so that made it super awkward.

My advice:
Guys, social cues are hard things sometimes, for girls too, but at least try. If you have to tell someone it’s okay to say no, that’s probably what the answer was in the first place.

Also, stalking is creepy. Don’t do it. Ever.

* “Are you really going to order that? It’s a bit expensive…” (It was 4 dollars and some change…)

* “What’s your favorite thing to do at night? Besides sleep I mean..”

- Now, predate stuff is different. Like, pick up lines. Just… jsut don’t. they aren’t flattering. They’re annoying.

The stupidest thing a guy has ever said to me was “You are so lucky to be with me. A guy was hitting on me this morning, and I had to say ‘Uh-uh. Don’t you know my girl’ll whip you?’. And he looked so disappointed!” Needless to say, the relationship ended right then. Biggest turn-offs: ego and stupidity.

To Guys: My biggest pet peeve is when someone says they’ll call and they don’t. If you promise to call her… Pull a leaf out of Nike’s book and JUST DO IT!

So my parents asked me to do their friends a favor and go with their son to his prom. I said yes, reluctantly. The whole night was pretty awful, but there was one moment that trumped them all! The prom was on a boat where they served dinner. After the dinner, my date got sick and puked over the side of the boat. I felt sorry for him so I went out and talked to him until he felt better. I guess he must have noticed that everyone on the deck was making out because he turned to me and asked me to KISS him!! I was so revolted…. and any mercy I felt because he was sick went right out the window! I could not wait for the boat to get back so I could go home!

We were driving around and he said, can’t you pay for me? and he asked it a bunch of other times too!!! Most girls feel special when a guy pays for them, but when the guy starts expecting the girl to pay for everything that is pathetic. I have a boyfriend now who tries to pay for everything! But since he wants to do that, I want to pay for both of us alot too!!! Guys, treat your girl like a princess and princesses shouldn’t have to do anything–including opening a door!

I went on a date with the shyest guy I knew. He was a real sweetheart and I wanted to give him a chance because I knew how much nerve it took for him to ask me out in the first place. We didn’t talk much before (aside for when we were at golf team practices/games), but I thought this would be my chance to get to know him a little bit better. When we went out on our date, it seemed fine at first, but then there was absolute silence on the other side. When I asked him questions about himself, they usually fell flat within three sentences, all of which were three words or less. He didn’t ask me any questions about myself or try to get to know me at all. It might have been the most boring date I have ever been on.

Note to guys, especially shy ones: You don’t have to be incredibly outgoing, but at least try to talk during the date. It seems kind of weird if you don’t talk, especially if you’re the one who asked in the first place.

I went on a date with this guy who i had a big crush on for a really long time. I knew that he liked me, but the whole time he was talking about his ex-girlfriend, and how stupid she was, and really? I don’t care! If you guys are over, you’re OVER, that’s all I’m interested in. I don’t want to be compared to her!
Advice: You’re on a date with that person for a reason. don’t talk about other dates or girlfriends you went on!

So this guy asked me out one summer, and even though my friends warned me that he was annoying, I decided to give it a try… after all, he was very nice to me and summer is always a nice time to have fun. ANYWAY…In an attempt to show off, he kept talking about how he has a lot of money. When we were at a pizza place, he insisted on paying for me. The total check was only maybe $15? So he pulls out his wallet, flashes a bunch of bills, and then throws a 50 on the counter. Really, there is no reason for that. At all.

Guys: It is a stereotype that girls only like guys with money. Don’t constantly talk about money that you do or do not have… that’s annoying. and a big turn off.

“You.. don’t look.. bad..”

Well, gee- that WAS the reaction I was going for!

So i went on this date with this guy and it so happened to be on my birthday, it was quite nice at the beginning we were slowly getting to know each other then out of the blue, he jumps on top of me and tries to kiss me, so i said no and he stoped but then a couple of minutes later he idd it again!!!!!!
He was way toooo cocky and peverted you want to make a girl feel comfortable, not your like about to rip her clothes off!!

first of all have SELF CONTROL,
and secondly dont tell a girl on a first date that you have a BONER!!! ewwwwwwwww after that i was like def. take me home now!!
really we’re not in middle school
so SELF CONTROL and MATURATY will def. help!

I once had a guy my very first term of college ask me out on a date. But before we ever got around to going out, I broke it off.
The reason?
He kept asking me things like “So, why do you wear your glasses instead of contacts? See, you look hot without your glasses.”
“Have you ever thought about dying your hair black?”

The young men of Earth need to know that you DON’T try to change a woman’s appearance until it suits you. It’s definitely not going to get you bonus points if you try to make us over- try looking to a girls mind instead.
Also, no talking about your ex, sex, or lame pick-up lines (like, “How much does a polar bear weigh…”).

However, bonus points WILL go to those who open doors, dress nicely, PAY, and make a stab at conversation. Oh, and a compliment or two never hurts, either.

Hey! No, I’m NOT a girl. I just wanted to say thanks to all you girls for giving us advice! I think it should really help a lot of us out. Though, sometimes, we just get shy. I believe both parties should play a part in the relationship. It shouldn’t always be one way. Both people have to play their role and support the other. That’s what I believe a relationship should be like.

Thanks again for the advice.

“Are you a lightbulb, because you turn me on.”
Gosh, that was awful. You should just be yourself on a date and leave the corny pickup lines at home.

Thanks a lot ladies. I’ve been on a couple dates that have been alright but not amazing and am really shy so the tips help. Sometimes that lame pickup line, not the stupid cocky one but something like the polar bear one, is just to give an opening because we don’t know where to start. Ciao and TY.

Okay so this guy that i was crushing on for soo long finally asked me out and i knew he had a rep for being a player (but i went for it any way ) it lasted about two weeks unfortuantly. but i new i wasnt going to last any way so i wasnt to heart broken. we remianded friends afterwards but what really ticked me off was one night i stayed after school to finish a project and was waiting in the lobby when he came in and sat down next to me. the day before he told me he wanted to get back together and i was really happy but he told me later that nght he couldnt decide between me and this other girl. ell he picked the other girl and two weeks later broke up with her too. so that night he sat next to me and started talking bout it (i asked though)adn he said he really didnt care his goal for this year was to play every cute freshman girl (hes a sophmore) i told him how that sounded and once again he siad he didnt care. it got worse when he said so far he was succeding at his goal when he said “well it only took you a week to like me…” and so one (i dont want to mention names)
GUYS: DONT I REPEAT DONT DO THAT!!! if you a player DONT BRAG ABOUT IT TO YOUR EX!!!!

The lamest thing a guy has said to me on a date is between two things… the first: is when a guy either brags about all the girls, places and times in which he has made out or when they brag about how easily they got to you… (Guys… DONT TELL GIRLS THEY WEREN’T HARD TO GET!!!) and the other thing guys should never say is negative comments about the girl…(like never say “u looked a lot cuter in what u wore yesterday” or “i hate it when you put on so much make up like you did tonight..” even if you are trying to compliment their usual self in an odd reverse psychology way keep the negatives to yourselves and avoid making a girl more unconfortable than she has to be…)

We were out to dinner and the check came. I reached for the check but he grabbed it first. He said, “Don’t buy me things. Save your money and spend it on clothes and makeup or whatever girls buy.”

Don’t be stereotypical. Not all girls like makeup and expensive clothes.

Men, please don’t send your friends to ask us out for you. It’s a major turn off and I don’t know anyone who would say yes.

this is more of a general relationship tip, but eh, whatever.
A guy and I were dating for about 3 weeks. He came up to me one day and said “I don’t think this relationship is going to work anymore”. I kind of had that vibe a few days ago, so I replied with “okay, well what are your reasons?” he told me “I don’t really like talking to people”. umm…what? seriously? what did you think a relationship was all about? Guys, most girls don’t need someone to talk to 24/7, but a little communication, and actually being an active member in the communication, is a good thing.

Guys need to go after the girl, girls love that.

Also good communication, so not constant jokes and definately not constant seriousness!

i went to the movies with my bf one day and the movie was hilarious. he didnt laugh at all. AND he made me pay for the tickets & popcorn & sodas. he didnt talk at all, even when i talked 2 him. he never talked to me again, not even on cell phone calls. so i dumpd him thru txt. it sounds really suckish, i know, but he didnt leave me any other choice.
ADVICE: guys, talk. or you WILL get dumpd thru txt.
also, you should ATLEAST pay for your half of the date.

Hey Josh!
I know you already did the video for this, but I would still like to offer the story of my first date. Point blank: it sucked. It was a double date with a guy I liked, and two of my friends who basically decided at age 16 they were going to get married someday. That should tell you enough about them right there. They’re psycho. But the date istelf was ok at first. Got picked up, went to look at Christmas lights in town, and then we went to Olive Garden for dessert. That’s when it got weird. We each ordered a different dessert, and then my friends pulled out these foam design type kits, complete with scissors and glue and glitter. To make little snowman pictures. In the middle of Olive Garden. And we HAD to participate.
Did I mention the guy I went out with hasn’t talked to me since?

I actually like the corny pick up lines! They’re funny. But some of them, like the gross perverted ones, just leave them at home, where they should stay.
Advice: Don’t say perverted things to your date, it’ll be awkward after you do. And it’ll ruin your date!

So, you already did the video but the absolute lamest date i’ve ever been on started like this.
“I know i told you i’d take you to the Chinese resturaunt, but I have a mcdonalds gift card i’d like to use up.”
Seriously. You couldn’t of used it tomorrow for lunch?
Advice: Don’t be cheap, but don’t be ritzy. Find the point in between. I don’t expect a steak dinner on the first date; but i also don’t really want to eat a double cheeseburger and small fries off the dollar menu.

Oh, here’s a good tip.
Guys.
BATHE.
Please.
The female nation begs you.
No one likes.
Your ‘man stink’.
It’s disgusting. ):
And for the guys that do bathe.
Good for you.
But if your a guy that thinks your ‘man stink’ is attarctive, don’t ever, ever, /ever/, take a girl out on a date, and ask, ‘is that smell you?’
Seriously.
You’re asking for it.

“your such a bad girl! we should go make out in front of a no making out sign”
wait, did he just say that? ok no. perv! that was prob. the dumbest thing you’ve ever said.
Another was when i went to the movies with some one and all he wanted to do was kiss me. i like snuggeling, and holding hands, and ocational kiss. He wouldnt barely even talk to me. Then he had the nerve to tell me he loved me so i broke up with him. Keep in mind this was only the second date.

Okay Let’s See..
The Thing I hate the most about some guys is when they hit you.
I mean I’m in high school and you should know by now that hitting girls is a definite No-No.
Oh and Guys Don’t Ever Ever Be Cocky.
“You Want Me”,”You Think I’m Hot,Huh?”,and “That girl wanted to go out with me but I said no”

1.) the stupidest thing a guy has ever said to me on a date would be “can you wait right here a sec. i have to TINKLE”
i mean come on what guy says he has to tinkle…
2.) ok here some advice… be manly but at the same time sensitive.. no girl wants to go out with a guy who is either a sissy or just some macho guy… be sweet!!
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Ok I just want to explain something that a lot of guys don’t understand: why saying “did you lose weight?” or anything like that is NOT a compliment. I know that it is probably intended to be a compliment, but in a way it’s an insult. It is like saying, “you used to be fatter, but you’re skinnier now”. I myself am not offended when a guy says something like that, but I know a lot of girls are. I’m just trying to help you guys to understand.

One of my guy friends and I went on a ‘friend date’. I liked him, so I got all dressed up and excited. We got to the restaurant and sat down, and all through appetizers he kept STARING! Finally, I asked him what was up. His response. “I never knew you looked like a girl.” Guys- THINK before you SPEAK.

Okay so a date that I recently went on was horrible. I tried not to let it bother me but after wards it sucked. So he brought me flowers which was nice and payed for dinner but that was where it ended, the whole time he talked about his ex girlfriend, and when we were walking he brought up how he used to be like shallow hal but then he learned that girls who don’t have much to offer on the outside end up being better dates. I had also made it clear that I was saving my first kiss for someone special, and he ended up putting his tongue in my mouth, and the next day we were texting and he told me I was a bad kisser. Then he came over and then after he left he texted me and said he wasn’t ready to date again because he and his fiance just broke up 3 weeks before. So as you can tell this date was full of mistakes. Guys: Don’t talk about your ex, also that shallow hal remark made me feel really bad. And if a girl tells you her boundaries make sure and respect them.

Once i went on a date, and the guy started to talk about all of his problems, is depressions…

and i freaked out!
cause it was really, really bad.
and i thought “where am i going get in?”

GUYS: if you have any kind of problems don’t talk about them on the first date, because it’s to damn scary!
in the first date we want to see how awsome you guys are, and how you are going make us happy..

=D

ok… seriously… this happened. I was on a date with a super cute and nice boy. I siad excuse me, I have to use the ladies room. When I arrived not only did he eat half of my food but he asked about whether it was number two or number one or both…i guess you could say it was over after that.
Dear guys,
dont ask what girls do in the bathroom. its soo rude, i mean really. and come on, if yr that hungry, buy more food. dont eat mine. lets be real here, be cool on yr dates. flirt a little, listen alot. and call her the next day. kayy, thankss

NUMBER 5: FIND COMMON INTERESTS!!!! Urgh.. one guy I sort of dated (I ended it fast), was OBSESSED with things I had absolutely no interest in – Anime, Manga, Lord of the Rings, XBOX 360 (in other words he’s a pretty big nerd xP), and he would constantly be talking about how ‘in episode 379 of Naruto Shippuden, Shibuki fights Sasuke to attain the Secret Nine Tails so he may pass through the Crystal Gates’.
My reaction: ‘Seriously?’
His: ‘Yeah it was so awesome!’
Me: ‘No, I mean seriously, what the f`ck are you talking about??!’
-Fail, epic.- Never talk about stuff we don’t give a flying sh~t about, please. This includes sports, cars, ect…

NUMBER 4: BRAGGING ABOUT HOW YOU’RE THE ‘REAL SHIT’. Cause you’re not. Nobody likes to hear about someone who has ‘this and that’. You just sound like a stuck-up prick. I heard one guy bragging about how he doesn’t take any shit from his parents and even attacted his mom after she hit him for something he did wrong. That is just f!cking wrong! The only good that comes out of this is now we know what scum you are.

NUMBER 3: HYGIENE!!! PLEASE!!!!!!! I can understand if you smell after you’ve just gone for a long run, but otherwise always make sure you smell fresh. I was with a guy that completely stunk, it was incredibly awful. I thought I was going to puke from his body odor. Please, please shower and use deodorant for the love of God!!!

NUMBER 2: LIARS! (YOU’VE BEEN CAUGHT)! So I was with one guy that was an a-hole. I discovered most of what I knew about him was a lie. He told me he liked the same bands as me, liked doing the same activities, and more. Then I learned that he only said those things to get close to me, and I found out he and I have literally nothing alike. What a waste of time! There have also been times where he told me he would call me, which you can guess never happened. Then I also discovered that he lied about his age! And it’s not like he was all, “I’m sorry, but I lied about my age because I thought if you knew how old I really am you wouldn’t give me a chance.” Instead I found out his real age when his MOTHER brought it up!!! Relationships are to never be based on lies, or ever contain them at any point in time.

NUMBER 1: NEVER AND I MEAN NEVERRR BRAG ABOUT THE GIRLS YOU’VE BEEN WITH. There’s this guy that’s been very obviously flirting with me since the start of the school year (looks for every opportunity to be around me, teases me, invites me to hang with him, ect…), but today he really pissed me off by joking about how many ex-girlfriends he did it with. WTF?! No girl wants to hear that! Never ever, EVERRRR bring up your ex’s, especially how many of them you did. That is the biggest turn-off ever! At this point I don’t even think I’d go out with him if he asks because now he just looks like a flirtatious manwhore. Completely disgusting.

Please guys, no bragging, lying, ect.
Be kind, loving, sincere, truthful, and wholehearted.

once on a date it was really romantic with my boyfriend and he started talking about his ex’s. GUYS NEVER TALK ABOUT YOUR EX’S WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND NEXT TO YOU!

I went on this date with a guy and on the way home he must have gotten nervous because he spent the entire time trying to explain binary code to me. Let’s just say there was no date 10.

Hey Josh!
You already made the video for this, but if you ever make a second one, here’s how my first date went. He was on time, and sweet, and flirty, and did everything right… until he patted my stomach and asked me if I was pregnant. He was kidding, but that was the last date I ever went on with him.

hey!! i need help idk if you read this stuff anymore josh but oh well.. see this guy i went on three dates with rejeceted me but now he wants to be friends with me then go back to dating me!! what should i do?? my parents have said to me that i should move on but i don’t know plz help me!!

Worst pickup line; it went from bad to worse.

guy: why are you on your blackberry texting away? *invades my privacy to look at the screen* ooohhh are you twittering?
me: no.
guy: *still looking at my expectantly and won’t leave*
me: yes? does my private conversation really interest you that much?
guy: would you like to go on a date?
me: no.
guy: have you ever been to burger king?
me: i’m an anorexic vegan.
guy: what was your favourite tv show as a kid?
me: power rangers.
guy: who was your favourite power ranger, mine was red.
me: red.
guy: but red is a GUY! you can’t be a guy power ranger!
me: I USED TO BE A GUY!
guy: like a transvestite?
me: yes of course, they did a good job huh?

oh and then here’s another sad one, from a guy i’d been dating on and off for over a year.
“you would be perfect if it weren’t for your big ego”
annnnd
“you know i’m going to inherit my grandpa’s company, 100’s of millions of dollars annually, you can have all of that, you just need to hang in there for 5 more years till we’re done school.”
- not surprisingly i dumped his moronic ass a couple days after he professed his love for me by driveling on for 6+ hours about really weird/pathetic crap.