Comments on: Hey Josh, My roomie smokes pot http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/01/27/hey-josh-my-roomie-smokes-pot/ Advice for a Digital Generation Wed, 21 Jul 2010 16:50:53 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Missus Mister http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/01/27/hey-josh-my-roomie-smokes-pot/comment-page-1/#comment-298 Missus Mister Wed, 28 Jan 2009 11:54:17 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=1608#comment-298 Interesting comment, I have to say I agree with Eodell. It does appear to be a serious enough situation where confrontation MUST not be avoided. There, I said it. The long C word even grown ups hate to use. But if we forget how to to that "c" thing, we'll end up with a no spine community that cannot stand tall. Pride is not a bad thing until it becomes the only thing. Stand up for yourself and say "I have a desire to succeed and I need to be able to focus on my education, not my environment. Thank you for your respect in this matter. The end." (or something like that.) And you will gain more respect than from an email(which may be effective in other situations. Peace for whatever you choose, Mona at SPC in VT Interesting comment, I have to say I agree with Eodell. It does appear to be a serious enough situation where confrontation MUST not be avoided. There, I said it. The long C word even grown ups hate to use. But if we forget how to to that “c” thing, we’ll end up with a no spine community that cannot stand tall. Pride is not a bad thing until it becomes the only thing. Stand up for yourself and say “I have a desire to succeed and I need to be able to focus on my education, not my environment. Thank you for your respect in this matter. The end.”
(or something like that.) And you will gain more respect than from an email(which may be effective in other situations.
Peace for whatever you choose, Mona at SPC in VT

]]> By: Eodell http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/01/27/hey-josh-my-roomie-smokes-pot/comment-page-1/#comment-293 Eodell Wed, 28 Jan 2009 02:14:19 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=1608#comment-293 Josh, got to disagree with you on this one a bit. Taking the non-confrontational email doesn't sound like a good idea to me. Every time I've seen somebody in college try to deal with a problem that way, it has led to a loss of respect towards the note-writer, and not a solution of the problem. I think that the best way to solve the problem would be to confront the roommate when it is actually a problem (i.e. when that skunk smell starts coming through the vent into smokey's room). That way the roommate will not be able to claim that "it can't be that bad", or anything of the sort. Smokey, if the smell makes it so that you are unable to study or focus or makes you uncomftorable, you definitely need to solve it. You are in college, and that needs to be your first priority. Remind everybody that you with that that is the reason that you are there, and that needs to come first. Oh, and don't let anybody tell you that there is nowhere else to smoke than in his room. My own roommate (we live in the dorms on campus) is pretty much always high, but never smokes in our room. He either walks out to the nearby forest, or to his car. Your roommate can go outback, to his car, to a friend's house, wherever. He'll get over it. Josh, got to disagree with you on this one a bit. Taking the non-confrontational email doesn’t sound like a good idea to me. Every time I’ve seen somebody in college try to deal with a problem that way, it has led to a loss of respect towards the note-writer, and not a solution of the problem.

I think that the best way to solve the problem would be to confront the roommate when it is actually a problem (i.e. when that skunk smell starts coming through the vent into smokey’s room). That way the roommate will not be able to claim that “it can’t be that bad”, or anything of the sort.

Smokey, if the smell makes it so that you are unable to study or focus or makes you uncomftorable, you definitely need to solve it. You are in college, and that needs to be your first priority. Remind everybody that you with that that is the reason that you are there, and that needs to come first.

Oh, and don’t let anybody tell you that there is nowhere else to smoke than in his room. My own roommate (we live in the dorms on campus) is pretty much always high, but never smokes in our room. He either walks out to the nearby forest, or to his car. Your roommate can go outback, to his car, to a friend’s house, wherever. He’ll get over it.

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