Hey Josh

Calipso,
All I can say is tell him how you feel. You need to express your concerns to him. Let him know that you are worried about him and his health. If he really is a great guy then he should respect your opinion and take into account what you say. I think you guys just need to sit down and have a real discussion about this. Maybe find out why he smokes and then it might be easier to help him quit. P.S it sounds like your relationship might have other problems soon if your referring to josh as joshy-oshy pudding pie, lol . Hope this helps.

Calipso,
My suggestion would be to tell him how you truly feel about the situation. People who are addicted to something need a lot of support from positive people. After discussing your problem with him (not to him, no one likes to feel like they’re being lectured), figure out a bunch of fun activities for you two to do together or with friends to keep his mind off of the cigs and mj. Then go out and do it. Hope this helps. Good luck :]

If you can’t deal with the smoking, let him go. I doubt he will change. We are creatures of habit. If you want him to change he will probably start hiding it from you.

Calipso,
Eating marijuana is much healthier if you are truly most concerned for his health. The biggest problem with smoking marijuana health-wise is that he smokes it. Thats what causes lung cancer and most of the other harmful affects to the body. If you are concerned more with the fact that he is abusing and illegal substance, however, I would tell him how you feel and if he’s loves you more than the drug, he’ll quit.

Calipso, dear, he’s developing a habit. You give him an ultimatum, you or the weed. If he so much as thinks about taking the stuff over you, you dump him. It’s in your best interest, he’ll only drag you down in life.

I’m not so sure about staying with a person who is doing drugs. And the way you say it, he seems addicted already.

My advice is pretty much the same as Coyote Trax.

Give the ultimatum. If he quits make sure you watch him carefully. It’s not that you shouldn’t trust him, it’s just that addictions can pull you back so easily if you’re not watched and made sure you don’t relapse.

Hope I helped,
James

He’s not developing a habit, he’s got a full blown lifestyle going on.

If he smokes pot that much, you aren’t going to get him to stop.
True stoners will give up their cigarettes, but they’ll never give up their pot.

If you can live with the pot smoking, you’ve got a chance, if not, I’d start shopping for a new guy.

Calipso,

“He smokes pot and cigs as often as he can get a hold of them…”
That sentence alone is pretty worrisome. If he’s smoking that often then he’s already got an addiction to at least one if not both. You have got to sit down with him, and talk with him about it (like Madi said be careful not to lecture, though).
Since you’ve written in I’m going to assume that his smoking is definitely a problem that makes you uncomofrtable, and you definitely got to let him know.
I’d be worried not just for his health, but also what would happen if he gets caught with pot- he won’t be as lucky as Michael Phelps.
Getting caught with that stuff can mess up his chances of getting and keeping a good job- and if you’re with him while he’s got it, it can ruin it for you, too.

Talk to him about it. If he’s willing to get help then be there for him. If not, or he won’t compromise, dump him. You deserve someone who feels the same as you about drugs- drugs become/are a lifestyle (like Heather said), not an opinion.

O.K. all i can really say is tell him how you feel and if he truly respects and cares for you he will change and if he wont change then he isn’t good enough for you

Seriousley tough, you can’t expect the guy to change. I know a stoner who have had the same problem with his girl friend. Every weekend (when they are either going out partying or something social) they start a discussion about him smoking ganja, and they end breaking up.

It’s the same procedure every time. Now I’m saying it’s gonna end up like this, but if you do tell, try to accept him the way he is if he choces to continue.
Cutting down is acceptable but quiting completley I’m not sure if you should expect that.

well if you really don’t want your parents to find out then you should ask him to quit and if he really respects you he will, but i went through the same thing and i finally realized the guy was no good!!!

I’m in the same situation as you are. Everything is so difficult because he blows me off for a chance to get high. I’ve come to reconcile his addictions to weed as love. He loves it, and we all know wwe will do anything for love. If you want someone to talk to, please email me! (=