Hey Josh, How do I deal with a mean girl?
Hey Josh,
I’ve got a problem. And my problem’s got a name. It’s Emily.
For some reason, Emily has decided to make my life a misery. She insults me to my face, tells my friends I talk about them behind their backs, tells people lies about me, and tons of other fun stuff.
Well, recently, I realized I really liked my best friend (which was awkward at first…). Emily found out and went around telling everyone that he was disgusted and freaked out.
What do I do about this girl? I’ve tried telling her to leave me alone. I’ve tried pretending she isn’t there. But this chick is out to get me for some wacky reason
Ahh! I’m going to pull my hair out!!! She’s driving me loony. Help!
Becky
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Dear Becky,
Emily is a vampire. And not the cool mysterious twilight sorta vampire. The wow-you-really-suck kinda vampire.
She, for whatever reason, sees you as a threat and therefore lobs all these attacks on you.
My advice: sometime when all is calm in the world, you need to confront her and let her know you don’t have a problem with her and ask why she is slinging crap your way.
She will either….
[A] deny it (likely)
[B] get upset and yell at you (also likely)
[C] apologize and then hug you and give you $20 (don’t count on it)
My hope is that by confronting her, you’ll take some wind out of her sails.
If all else fails, blow her off, who cares what she says, don’t let it bother you…cause if you do- she wins.
Also, I probably should have referenced garlic somehow. And wooden stakes.
// josh
5 Comments
Confront her like Josh says. If she keeps on bugging you, well, I’d personally ignore her. Now, if it was a guy, I’d lob a fist at his face
Just do what you think is right. There will always be people like her in the world, the best way is to either get away from that person or ignore that person. Unless you snap, then just lob a few fists
That should shut them up for a few weeks.
I’ve dealt with people like this Emily. I wanted to pull my hair out, too. With one of the girls, I basically confronted it. I said, you know, maybe I’ve just been really easily annoyed lately, but some of the stuff you’re saying is really getting to me. She backed off, possibly because she didn’t understand what she had really been doing to me. The other girl really meant it. There was no way that asking her nicely would have helped. I had to deal with her in basketball, and I was going crazy. I looked to my friends for support, and they helped me out. Later I found out that she was really insecure. It didn’t make me instantly like her, but it made me realize that she had no power over me.
She is constantly bothering you beacuse of her own insecurity. She is obviously in some way jealous of you. Know that she is not worth the effort and keep your head up. If it gets worse let someone you trust at school or at home know of the situation. Hope everything works out.
I’ve dealt with girls like her. The best way is to straight-up confront her. Emily is obviously insecure and in a way jealous of you. Her constant teasing is how she deals with it. My advice is to confront her and talk to her like a reasonable person. Also, if things get out of hand, go to a counselor or get a Peer Mediation set in order to put an end to this mess you’re in.
dude, u are just going to have to let it go. she,s not worth all the trouble you are goin through. she obviously wants to make your life miserabale. dont let her. good luck