Comments on: Hey Josh, I’m Having Problems With My Parents http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/ Advice for a Digital Generation Sun, 29 Aug 2010 08:23:24 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: James Nhan http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1138 James Nhan Thu, 06 Aug 2009 22:25:58 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2447#comment-1138 Now, I couldn't see the video because it was removed, but judging by what Josh wrote and what comments were posted, it seems you have trouble about your parents and them loving/caring for you. It can be tough, but if you can pull through passed high school and onto college, and keep your head high and mind steered forward, I believe you can live a good life after this. I won't say I know how you feel, because I've never gone through this before, but I will say that I'm sorry you're in this situation. However, pity doesn't do anything, so instead I offer friendship and my advice. I say you should look to your friends and perhaps school counselors for help. Friends can give you the love and care you need as well as respect. Counselors can give you other help as well as respect. Some other advice I have is to always keep your mind steered forward. I know you can pull through this and live a good life. So do it. I really hope you do. Hope I helped, James Now, I couldn’t see the video because it was removed, but judging by what Josh wrote and what comments were posted, it seems you have trouble about your parents and them loving/caring for you.

It can be tough, but if you can pull through passed high school and onto college, and keep your head high and mind steered forward, I believe you can live a good life after this. I won’t say I know how you feel, because I’ve never gone through this before, but I will say that I’m sorry you’re in this situation. However, pity doesn’t do anything, so instead I offer friendship and my advice.

I say you should look to your friends and perhaps school counselors for help. Friends can give you the love and care you need as well as respect. Counselors can give you other help as well as respect.

Some other advice I have is to always keep your mind steered forward. I know you can pull through this and live a good life. So do it.

I really hope you do.

Hope I helped,
James

]]> By: Steph http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1133 Steph Thu, 06 Aug 2009 01:59:55 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2447#comment-1133 Hey Kiley. I know it's tough. Sometimes you NEED an adult to talk to, and parents are supposed to be a teen's closest choice. I've turned to a teacher that has emotionally adopted me as her own to a certain point. I visit her regularly throughout the school year, and she even invites me to her house in the summer. If you aren't getting along with your parents, and you've already made an effort to try to improve that relationship- find someone else to turn to. You seem extremely nice; there will be an adult who will be willing to listen to you. Teacher, guidance counselor, maybe even someone at church. Hey Kiley. I know it’s tough. Sometimes you NEED an adult to talk to, and parents are supposed to be a teen’s closest choice. I’ve turned to a teacher that has emotionally adopted me as her own to a certain point. I visit her regularly throughout the school year, and she even invites me to her house in the summer. If you aren’t getting along with your parents, and you’ve already made an effort to try to improve that relationship- find someone else to turn to. You seem extremely nice; there will be an adult who will be willing to listen to you. Teacher, guidance counselor, maybe even someone at church.

]]> By: Ashley http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1115 Ashley Sat, 25 Jul 2009 02:00:13 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2447#comment-1115 Hey Kiley. I know how you feel when you said your sister and mom's boyfriend are the center of attention. I have a little sister that gets everything she wants when she wants it. Also, my mom's boyfriend, my mom usually takes his side over things. But hear me out, don't let it get to you. I most certainly don't. Sometimes I write about it or take to someone else about it. I'm telling you it really helps. If your friends are the only ones who want you in the world, it's great that you have people to care about you. Your family is missing out, hopefully they'll soon see that. Bye :) Hey Kiley. I know how you feel when you said your sister and mom’s boyfriend are the center of attention. I have a little sister that gets everything she wants when she wants it. Also, my mom’s boyfriend, my mom usually takes his side over things. But hear me out, don’t let it get to you. I most certainly don’t. Sometimes I write about it or take to someone else about it. I’m telling you it really helps. If your friends are the only ones who want you in the world, it’s great that you have people to care about you. Your family is missing out, hopefully they’ll soon see that. Bye :)

]]> By: Mama J http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1106 Mama J Wed, 22 Jul 2009 20:53:33 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2447#comment-1106 One of the biggest secrets in life is that parents are just people, that means they are by no means perfect even when they act like they are. The other big secret is that parents NEVER EVER have control over their kids, even though they act like they do. From the time you, me, any one was born the only one who has control over you is YOU. Yes parents have tremendous "influence" but that is all they have. Think about it, who decided what your favorite toy was when you were young? Who decided when you smiled, when you cried, etc? YOU and only YOU! So parents are trying to control what they can never control and kids grow into teens who have no idea how to use the most powerful tool they will ever have ... The Power of Choice which gives you Control! In order to use your Power to the max you have to be willing to accept Responsibility for Your Choices. That's not always easy. Just like your parents have zero control over you, you have zero control over them. People are like oranges - when you squeeze an orange you get orange juice each and every time. People can only show you what they have inside. They can not show you unconditional love unless they have unconditional love on the inside. So something within your Mother is causing her to make the choices she is making towards you, it is not you. Now you may have made choices in the past that have influenced her reactions and you have to take responsibility for your choices, not her reaction - good or bad. Then start looking at your Orange Juice. What are you sharing with the rest of the world? Start using your Power of Choice to control your future so that you are moving in the direction YOU want your life to go. We all want to be love, appreciated and respected but it doesn't have to come from your Mom. Define what love, appreciation and respect are to you and then look for others who have the orange juice to meet that definition. Peace Out - Mama J One of the biggest secrets in life is that parents are just people, that means they are by no means perfect even when they act like they are. The other big secret is that parents NEVER EVER have control over their kids, even though they act like they do. From the time you, me, any one was born the only one who has control over you is YOU. Yes parents have tremendous “influence” but that is all they have. Think about it, who decided what your favorite toy was when you were young? Who decided when you smiled, when you cried, etc? YOU and only YOU! So parents are trying to control what they can never control and kids grow into teens who have no idea how to use the most powerful tool they will ever have … The Power of Choice which gives you Control! In order to use your Power to the max you have to be willing to accept Responsibility for Your Choices. That’s not always easy. Just like your parents have zero control over you, you have zero control over them. People are like oranges – when you squeeze an orange you get orange juice each and every time. People can only show you what they have inside. They can not show you unconditional love unless they have unconditional love on the inside. So something within your Mother is causing her to make the choices she is making towards you, it is not you. Now you may have made choices in the past that have influenced her reactions and you have to take responsibility for your choices, not her reaction – good or bad. Then start looking at your Orange Juice. What are you sharing with the rest of the world? Start using your Power of Choice to control your future so that you are moving in the direction YOU want your life to go. We all want to be love, appreciated and respected but it doesn’t have to come from your Mom. Define what love, appreciation and respect are to you and then look for others who have the orange juice to meet that definition. Peace Out – Mama J

]]> By: Mathew http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1101 Mathew Wed, 22 Jul 2009 13:39:31 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2447#comment-1101 Hey there, Let me start off by saying you're truly a strong indivdual. I have dealt with less then stellar parents, when I was around four my family and I went to Germany as my dad was stationed over there. Well, I find out years later( when I'm sixteen or so, I'm eighteen now) that my mother would come home drunk and not know where I was. My father would then come home, not knowing. One of many things... Where'd they find me? On the neighbors couch sleeping, the sad thing was that the neighbors didn't een know I was there. How have I dealt with it? and What did I learn? I learned that's my past and it will forever will be but it has given me such motivation to choose what I want to do with my life. I pushed past the divorce my parents had and not being able to see them saddly it was a blessing as if I would have stayed with my mother (my father moved to a city far enough away) that I would probably wouldn't be able to speak to you right now. What worked? Knowing that other family and friends are there. My grandparents got custody over me and I have countless friends young and old to help. My advice: Realize the potential you have even if your parents don't see it! Realize that potential combined with your goals will send you places that people would be in awe over. Right now live life the best you can and realize there is more out there then this pain that is keeping you down. I hope for the best! Hey there,
Let me start off by saying you’re truly a strong indivdual. I have dealt with less then stellar parents, when I was around four my family and I went to Germany as my dad was stationed over there. Well, I find out years later( when I’m sixteen or so, I’m eighteen now) that my mother would come home drunk and not know where I was. My father would then come home, not knowing. One of many things… Where’d they find me? On the neighbors couch sleeping, the sad thing was that the neighbors didn’t een know I was there. How have I dealt with it? and What did I learn? I learned that’s my past and it will forever will be but it has given me such motivation to choose what I want to do with my life. I pushed past the divorce my parents had and not being able to see them saddly it was a blessing as if I would have stayed with my mother (my father moved to a city far enough away) that I would probably wouldn’t be able to speak to you right now. What worked? Knowing that other family and friends are there. My grandparents got custody over me and I have countless friends young and old to help. My advice: Realize the potential you have even if your parents don’t see it! Realize that potential combined with your goals will send you places that people would be in awe over. Right now live life the best you can and realize there is more out there then this pain that is keeping you down. I hope for the best!

]]> By: Angela http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1100 Angela Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:00:21 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2447#comment-1100 I've dealt with this in the harshest way possible. During my suicide attempt instead of bringing me to an er my mom called me stupid and dragged me to a pediatrician an hour away because she didn't want to pay for the hospital,but after all this my failed attempt has been a blessing. it sounds crazy and paradoxical but the truth is i learned that no matter what i do i CAN'T CHANGE who my parents are. The thing that i CAN CHANGE is how i react to them and how i am as a person. I'm the one who controls my future. Maybe you don't have a picture perfect relationship with you're parents but if you have the picture perfect relationship with yourself and who you want to be you will be just fine. Trust me worst things have happened in this world. Everything will be okay in the end, and if it's not okay, it's not the end. I’ve dealt with this in the harshest way possible. During my suicide attempt instead of bringing me to an er my mom called me stupid and dragged me to a pediatrician an hour away because she didn’t want to pay for the hospital,but after all this my failed attempt has been a blessing.

it sounds crazy and paradoxical but the truth is i learned that no matter what i do i CAN’T CHANGE who my parents are. The thing that i CAN CHANGE is how i react to them and how i am as a person.

I’m the one who controls my future.

Maybe you don’t have a picture perfect relationship with you’re parents but if you have the picture perfect relationship with yourself and who you want to be you will be just fine.
Trust me worst things have happened in this world. Everything will be okay in the end, and if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.

]]> By: Angela http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/07/20/hey-josh-im-having-problems-with-my-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-1099 Angela Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:58:54 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2447#comment-1099 I've dealt with this in the harshest way possible. During my suicide attempt instead of bringing me to an er my mom called me stupid and dragged me to a pediatrician an hour away because she didn't want to pay for the hospital,but after all this my failed attempt has been a blessing. it sounds crazy and paradoxical but the truth is i learned that no matter what i do i can't change how my parents are. The only thing that i can change is how i react to them and how i am as a person. I'm the one who controls my future. Maybe you don't have a picture perfect relationship with you're parents but if you have the picture perfect relationship with yourself and who you want to be you will be just fine. Trust me worst things have happened in this world. Everything will be okay in the end, and if it's not okay, it's not the end. I’ve dealt with this in the harshest way possible. During my suicide attempt instead of bringing me to an er my mom called me stupid and dragged me to a pediatrician an hour away because she didn’t want to pay for the hospital,but after all this my failed attempt has been a blessing.
it sounds crazy and paradoxical but the truth is i learned that no matter what i do i can’t change how my parents are. The only thing that i can change is how i react to them and how i am as a person. I’m the one who controls my future. Maybe you don’t have a picture perfect relationship with you’re parents but if you have the picture perfect relationship with yourself and who you want to be you will be just fine. Trust me worst things have happened in this world. Everything will be okay in the end, and if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.

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