Comments on: Advice Show 005 // Stalker Friends, Angry Moms, and Cow Costumes http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/09/16/advice-show-005-stalker-friends-angry-moms-and-cow-costumes/ Advice for a Digital Generation Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:47:58 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Sera Rivers http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/09/16/advice-show-005-stalker-friends-angry-moms-and-cow-costumes/comment-page-1/#comment-1203 Sera Rivers Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:34:05 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2607#comment-1203 Hey Megan, If you have a hard time talking to your parents, try writing a letter or email to them expressing all of the things you feel. If you start off your sentences with "I feel like...." or "I think that..." or "I wish that...." instead of sentences that say "You make me feel..." or "You never let me..." or "If only you would..." are the best ways to write (or speak for that matter). It makes the listener not go into defense mode because your language talks about what "I want" not what "You aren't doing". Isabella, I agree with Molly above. It is not wise to meet people online. The only time I meet anyone online is if the person has a mutual friend. I mean mutual as in my friend REALLY knows the online friend, not just through the internet. I also bring someone with me. AND I tell someone where I am going, the person's full name, his/her address and phone number. I also google the person to make sure there are no crimes this person has committed. Googling one person actually showed a domestic violence dispute. I cut my connection with him immediately. Hope this helps. Hey Megan,

If you have a hard time talking to your parents, try writing a letter or email to them expressing all of the things you feel. If you start off your sentences with “I feel like….” or “I think that…” or “I wish that….” instead of sentences that say “You make me feel…” or “You never let me…” or “If only you would…” are the best ways to write (or speak for that matter). It makes the listener not go into defense mode because your language talks about what “I want” not what “You aren’t doing”.

Isabella, I agree with Molly above. It is not wise to meet people online. The only time I meet anyone online is if the person has a mutual friend. I mean mutual as in my friend REALLY knows the online friend, not just through the internet. I also bring someone with me. AND I tell someone where I am going, the person’s full name, his/her address and phone number. I also google the person to make sure there are no crimes this person has committed. Googling one person actually showed a domestic violence dispute. I cut my connection with him immediately.

Hope this helps.

]]> By: Molly McCahan http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/09/16/advice-show-005-stalker-friends-angry-moms-and-cow-costumes/comment-page-1/#comment-1201 Molly McCahan Thu, 17 Sep 2009 02:51:37 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2607#comment-1201 Hi Isabella, The most important piece of advice I can give you is to be extremely, EXTREMELY careful about the "friends" you meet on the internet. I'm sure you've probably heard it before, because I know that I have, a thousand times; but can never be sure who you're really talking to over the internet. Ironic really. But in all seriousness, it is truly important to be careful with internet friends. I'm not saying that you shouldn't meet people over the internet, but if you are actually going to physically see them, before ever having seen them before, I would definitely take someone with you. Self preservation is a must here! Good luck! Hi Isabella,
The most important piece of advice I can give you is to be extremely, EXTREMELY careful about the “friends” you meet on the internet. I’m sure you’ve probably heard it before, because I know that I have, a thousand times; but can never be sure who you’re really talking to over the internet. Ironic really. But in all seriousness, it is truly important to be careful with internet friends. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t meet people over the internet, but if you are actually going to physically see them, before ever having seen them before, I would definitely take someone with you. Self preservation is a must here!
Good luck!

]]> By: Josephine http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/09/16/advice-show-005-stalker-friends-angry-moms-and-cow-costumes/comment-page-1/#comment-1199 Josephine Wed, 16 Sep 2009 19:17:17 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2607#comment-1199 Hi Megan, I feel like I know exactly what you're going through. My sister and I often have trouble talking to our mom. Sometimes, it's the language/generation barrier since we were born here and she was an immigrant from Vietnam. Sometimes, she brings up stories from the past that we've both heard many times and takes the anger and anguish she sent up herself out on us. My sister tends to hold her anger in and vent to me later (or just hold it in). She's good at keeping a level head in these situations (even when my mom's making insensitive comments about her weight). I tend to try and get my mom to calm down and let her know that I just want to talk. If that doesn't work, I go to my friends and teachers (that's good advice, Josh). Really, just try to understand her first, and decide on your best way to deal. Hi Megan,
I feel like I know exactly what you’re going through. My sister and I often have trouble talking to our mom. Sometimes, it’s the language/generation barrier since we were born here and she was an immigrant from Vietnam. Sometimes, she brings up stories from the past that we’ve both heard many times and takes the anger and anguish she sent up herself out on us. My sister tends to hold her anger in and vent to me later (or just hold it in). She’s good at keeping a level head in these situations (even when my mom’s making insensitive comments about her weight). I tend to try and get my mom to calm down and let her know that I just want to talk. If that doesn’t work, I go to my friends and teachers (that’s good advice, Josh). Really, just try to understand her first, and decide on your best way to deal.

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