Advice Show 007 // Repairing Broken Trust, Accepting Yourself, and Being Your Best
Episode 007! Like James Bond…only, you know, completely unrelated.
This week we hear from Ray about a little habit he’s developed with breaking his parents’ trust, and Zi tells me she feels like she’s worthless, useless, and not good at anything. The Owl of Wisdom went on vacation apparently (darn bird didn’t even leave a note), so I recruit a plastic parrot to help answer their questions:
See you again next week with more freshly-baked, piping hot biscuits of knowledge. In the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts about Ray’s desire to repair the trust he broke and Zi’s damaging habit of always comparing herself to others. Hey, maybe you’re going through the same things. We’ve all been there at some point, right?
So, what’s your advice? How have you dealt with similar emotions/situations? Be a friend; get thee to the comments section and lob a few nuggets of insight over to Ray and Zi.
// josh
P.S. Ketrick, I’m glad to see you overcame what your parents did to your hair when you were but a helpless little boy wonder. The rest of you, scan and send your own crazy embarrassing permed mullet photos from your childhood/whenever to josh@heyjosh.com for a shot at a week in the frame.
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Great website Josh! It’s a real confidence booster to see young people like you doing speaking and personal development professionally.
I wrote an article recently about self-acceptance. It’s a big topic for me.
Eduard
hey! ive went though situations similar to both ray and zi. first to ray- a few years ago, i got into the habit of lying to my parents and sneaking behind their backs quite often. They suspected and sometimes i got caught. i lost a lot of their trust. but like you, i also wanted that trust back. so i worked at it. i stopped sneaking. i respected their authority. i apologized when i made a mistake. and now, i am pleased to say that i have a lot more freedom than even the majority of my friends. my dad tells me almost daily that he is proud of me and that he trusts me. so yeah ray, just work at it. it will most likely be a long, tedious process, but its totally worth it!
and now to zi- oh man i totally feel for you. i have two older siblings myself- one brother, and one sister. my bro is super smart and excels at pretty much everything he does. my sister is stunningly beautiful and seems to show me up with everything. now, dont get me wrong. i have a great relationship with both of them. we arent in competition with each other. but sometimes, deep down inside of me, i find myself comparing what i do and how i look to both of them. and when i do that,i dont even feel remotely useful or adequate. it can get pretty damaging to my emotions. when i catch myself doing that though, i stop right in my tracks. i then remind myself that my life is not a triangle. its not me, my sibling, and my beliefs and accomplishments. its just me and what i do. its me and who i am. my worth is not found in my sister, my brother, or anyone else. my worth is found in who i am in God, who i am as a person. i dont have to live up to what other people do, but i should live up to what i know i can do. zi, kudos to you for sharing your heart. thats definitely gutsy.
hey josh i need advice on some things like i have been picked on my hole life for reasons that i dont knoe but i have thought about killing my self the only reason i did not is because my mom is haveing problems and she needs my help