http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/11/25/advice-show-015-self-pity-losing-dad-and-googling-yourself/ Advice for a Digital Generation Wed, 21 Jul 2010 16:50:53 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 http://www.heyjosh.com/2009/11/25/advice-show-015-self-pity-losing-dad-and-googling-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1845 Mathew Edvik (Teen Esteem Council) Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:13:22 +0000 http://www.heyjosh.com/?p=2852#comment-1845 Jessica, I am going take a different angle than Josh on this topic and say that her happiness is not up to you. I think that he is right on that it is good and noble to be a friend to her, take her out, and help her have fun. However, if you become someone Else's emotional garbage dump, that is not healthy. In working with a lot of teen girls I have seen a quite a few lose themselves in their friends problems. The best thing you can do, along with being a friend to her, is to make sure that you are increasing your talents, skills, and capacities as a person. You being the 'best you' that you can be may help inspire her to get out of her self pity and start working to be her best. Jessica, I am going take a different angle than Josh on this topic and say that her happiness is not up to you. I think that he is right on that it is good and noble to be a friend to her, take her out, and help her have fun. However, if you become someone Else’s emotional garbage dump, that is not healthy.
In working with a lot of teen girls I have seen a quite a few lose themselves in their friends problems.
The best thing you can do, along with being a friend to her, is to make sure that you are increasing your talents, skills, and capacities as a person. You being the ‘best you’ that you can be may help inspire her to get out of her self pity and start working to be her best.

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